Friday, 3 August 2018


This week is pondering and writing about something invisible and intangible, it is real, although hard to quantify or explain and put into words so here goes….

As a writer, these topics are challenging and I may need to re-phrase the same issue a couple of different ways, as everyone processes information differently. Some may read this article, and the light bulb doesn’t come on for a month or more, but you will recognize it and understand it better I hope!

First, I need you to reflect upon the day you just had. Did it consist of emotions which came from judgments?

Take the following walked into a grocery store and you hear an ear-splitting scream. First your senses are to see if someone is being hurt, so you look toward the source of the scream to find. It is a three-year-old not getting their way and is having a huge tantrum because they can’t have the lollies they want.

Therefore, we have a situation on which to set a judgement and an emotional response follows from that situation.

Your judgement may be:-
spoilt child
Or… I remember when my child /ren did those things and shrug it off
Horrible noise

The emotional response to your judgment follows


Hence you are reacting to a situation, forming a judgment which then develops into your emotional response. No one can see or hear your responses, or knows how you are reacting unless you respond with a grimace or smile on your face.

Our days comprise of situations, judgments and emotional responses.

What I am trying to explain and for you to contemplate
 is the concept of emotional voids.

I have thought long and hard to find where this came from or when it goes. I noticed it came after years of mediation which had led me to noticing my thoughts and reactions to situations. It came after I accepted all the opposites of a judgment or emotion.

For example you can’t understand one opposite without knowing the other side. Like a pendulum swinging from side to side on our sensory meters.

You won’t understand Ecstasy without intense Depression
Happiness without experiencing Sadness
Laughter without Sobbing
Day without Night
Love without Hate
Serenity without Agitation
Laughter without Anguish
Life without Death

We experience many of these judgments based on our experiences and where they fall on the pendulum. The pendulum swings from side to side.

A goldfish who has met his / her death has a different number on your scale of grief compared to a sibling or parent dying. But the end is the same Death. With death comes grief - situation followed by an emotional response.

A child will mourn a gold fish as a 10 on their meter because this is the first time they have experienced the concept of death. When they are an adult and watch their child, flush the goldfish down the toilet in the ritual of death and dying. The child now an adult may view the experience of death on a scale of 0.5 to 1. But may feel for their child and comfort is now their primary concern.

I hope I haven’t lost you yet?

The acceptance of darkness and light
With life there is death (natural or taken by someone else)
Wet seasons and Droughts
Love and Hate

Many situations we can't change or influence.

When you remove your judgments, because these degrees of circumstances exist in the world whether, you like it or not. Without, judging a situation you remove the emotional response. Therefore - creating an emotional vacuum or void.

If I hadn’t been practicing mediation for years and experienced the weightlessness or void when meditating. I may not have been so accepting when these emotional voids happened. They are no different to many other cycles which happen in our lives. We take for granted every day and accept without a second thought.

Cycles like Day and Night
Wet seasons and Dry seasons
The sun cycles of four Seasons in a year
The 28 day moon cycle from New to Full Moon

These are all a natural phenomenon.

Human emotions and responses are also a natural phenomenon they have a cause and effect.

Emotional voids happen in my life and may last for days or weeks. I have learnt to accept them and try not to hasten their end. They are here for a reason. Similar to the no thought state in mediation which rests the mind of thought. These emotional voids means you have removed the judgments of good and bad, happy or sad. You do not respond to the outer world situations with judgments therefore

You are void of emotion  - you are still

I rest….. the pendulum has stopped swinging. I am one with the universe.

Emotional voids are an exceptional experience and I have learnt to value them.

Stay Strong!


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